What Does it Mean to have Your Sh*t Together?

It's often used when someone is feeling overwhelmed or stressed out by life. But what does it actually look and feel like to have your sh.... together?

Dear friend,

We're all familiar with the phrase "get your shit together". But what does it truly mean?

For this weekly, I'd like to replace the word "shit" with "sugar", and talk about having your life in order. In our family, we've consciously made an effort to use more positive language, like replacing shit with sugar and fuck with fudge, in order to set a better example for our kids as they grow up. However, let me assure you, I do enjoy a good curse now and again! :)

To "get your sugar together" is often used when someone feels overwhelmed or stressed out by life. But what does it really look and feel like to have your sugar together? Here are my thoughts on the matter.

Balance is key

Having your sugar together means to me having multiple pillars in your life, which come together to shape your identity. It's important to have a variety of things going on—different aspects of your personality and lifestyle, to find balance by not excessively focusing on one area. While work is undoubtedly important, it's equally crucial to make time for family, hobbies, health, passions, and learning. As a homebody myself, who works, eats, paints, and writes from home, I need to be mindful of not isolating myself and make an effort to socialize more. Having your sugar together means being aware of the ups and downs of life and making necessary adjustments.

Keep learning

Never stop challenging your mind. Engage in reading diverse books, take courses, ask questions, and continue to educate yourself. By keeping your mind active, you give it a healthy workout.

Financial stability matters

Having your sugar together also means being financially aware and in control. I understand that this aspect may not be the most thrilling, but trust me, when everything is in order, it brings about a sense of calm. Create budgeting plans, build up savings, explore multiple sources of income, consider investments, and stay on top of your finances. Knowing what money is coming in and going out, is crucial for maintaining stability.

Know yourself

Understanding who you are and what you want is vital to having your sugar together. I personally find this aspect both enjoyable and occasionally frustrating. It's okay if you haven't figured everything out yet, but being aimless or holding onto baseless opinions isn't a sign of being "together." Instead, live a more intentional and authentic life by making choices based on self-knowledge. Continuously ask yourself, "Who am I?" This question is key for me in gaining self-awareness.

Be adaptable

A person who has their life together isn't easily shaken by change or unexpected events. Be prepared to adjust and adapt when necessary. Those who can embrace and evolve are more likely to succeed in life.

So, how do you get your sugar together?

Start by dedicating "Get Your Sugar Together" (GYST) days to organizing your life, routines, and home. Set aside specific days for tasks you've been putting off. Regularly review your progress and make exciting plans for the future. Personally, I find journaling helpful for reflecting on my thoughts and breaking unhelpful patterns. Pay attention to heavy negative emotions, as they may highlight areas where you might be out of balance. Create plans to address those areas.

Furthermore, it's crucial to prioritize your health in all aspects of your life. Although it may sound like a cliché, without good health, we're not much good to anyone, including ourselves. We need physical, mental, and emotional well-being, especially in today's world. Make sure to allocate sufficient time for self-care activities, such as exercise, nutritious meals, and restful sleep. Take the initiative to seek out opportunities for personal growth and engage in activities which bring you joy and nurture your passions.

Having your sugar together doesn't mean you'll never feel overwhelmed or have a bad day. It's not about being perfect (I don't believe anyone is), nor is it about always being confident. It's about taking control of your life instead of being at the mercy of circumstances. Don't stress about trying to be the best, but also don't avoid your problems and things that no longer serve you. Acknowledge where your sugar is slipping away and make a plan to get it together. Don't let your sugar slip too often, and always be kind to yourself.

Until next week, stay curious and in the attitude of gratitude.

Much loves,

Kim